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A dog is the only thing on earth that loves you more than you love yourself.

                                                                                 - Josh Billings

I love love love my baby dutchee so very much. =)

10 Rules To Make Long Distance Relationships Work

1. Have A Relationship Plan For The Future

Know where you are heading. Have a light at the end of the tunnel.

“Have a light at the end of the tunnel”

What do you want to accomplish in you partnership? Have goals and a time frame when you want to be together. It is very important that you both have a hope to live for. Have a light at the end of the tunnel.

2. Meet Regularly

Try to see each other every month at least once. Plan this ahead and include some activities, like town visits, museums, a weekend in a fancy hotel, etc. Make it a celebration, an explosion, something very special!

Soon this short meetings will be something you long for, something that you will align your life at.

3. Use Modern Technologies To Communicate

You need all the help you can get, so why not using the glorious benefits of a modern communication world:

• Get an e-mail account if you do not have one and write at least one e-mail to each other every day
• Use Skype or something similar to talk to each other for free. Believe me, it’s awesome watching a movie together while simultaneously talking on Skype
• Use Instant Messaging (I recommend the Yahoo Messenger)
• Use digital photographs and videos of your daily activities and send them via e-mail
• Use a webcam

4. Give Yourselves A Free Day

This one-sided communication – I mean with no physical interaction – can sometimes frustrate very intensively. It is possible that this frustration then comes to conflicts between you as an outlet for it. This could lead to misunderstandings that are very difficult to resolve per e-mail. Believe me one thing, you do not want to have a fight over e-mail or phone.

I then found it very helpful to insert a day or two without any communication. What then happens is that you miss each other very intensively and you usually find yourselves at a more higher level than you were before.

If the only way of interaction between you is canceled for a day or two, you will either progress or doubt. In any case you will know where you stand. This is also a good way to test your long distance relationship.

5. Write Extensive And Intimate E-mails

Open yourself up completely. Write about your inner state, what you are feeling, what you dream about, what you hope for. As a rule of guidance: describe in your e-mails your inner state and in your phone-calls your outer state. Writing is more intense than verbal communication and allows you to be more intimate. That will create a tighter bond between you.

6. Send A Written Letter Once In A While

Do not underestimate the marvelous feeling, when you look in your letter box and find a letter from your love, open it and see his/her writing. This is a pleasure we often forget about in this modern times. Not to mention that it’s far more romantic.

7. Beware Of Jealousy

Jealousy is a very dangerous thing and can threaten every long distance relationship. Jealousy is commonly a lack of trust and understanding. It very often reveals insecurities and bad experiences in other relationships.

8. Avoid Dangerous “Situations”

As mentioned before, trust is essential. If you completely trust your partner and also have faith in your relationship, you can pretty much do what you want without endangering your relation. However, I nevertheless recommend avoiding some specific situations. Of course it depends on the person, but I would not date the opposite sex alone, or go to wild parties. Simply avoid temptations that could distract you from each other.

9. Never Loose Faith

“People will tell you that long distance relationships never work. Don’t listen!”

10. Always Stay Positive

Always assume that your partner loves you and cares about you. Never assume anything negative, whether you read something in his/her e-mails or you disliked how he/she made a weird comment on something. Don’t interpret to much in it.

By: Eddie Corbano

I must think of applying this. =)

I LOVE YOU EFFINS!

I still don’t know how we found each other.

How we became one group.

All I know is, I wouldn’t have found myself if I didn’t find you.

I love him more each day.